The purpose of the 3×5 cards was two-fold: a few atta-boys and a few constructive criticisms per person. We were more than halfway through our nine months together; a perfect time to step back and re-evaluate. Ministries can be fantastic breeding grounds for misunderstandings and hurt feelings, so we strived to keep our communication strong. Our group of seven staff felt safe, but we swapped the rectangles full of words and braced ourselves for the inevitable. I naturally read the compliments first. The accolades boosted my confidence as a leader and confirmed feelings we previously exchanged in person: I liked them, they liked me… life was bueno. I flipped to…